Lesson Learned?
Valuable Lesson Learned
Let’s go back a few years to Jr. High. Partying every weekend, smoking, drinking, kissing…all the things I would be mortified by if my 14 year old were the participant. One day,your my little sister ratted me out. She was all of 8 years old and found a cigarette in my room. When asked by my mother whose it was, of course I confessed immediately. Yeah right! I lied! I said it was someone else’s, I said I found it, I said anything that would not find me guilty as charged. Guilty I was and grounded! Grounded! Not because of smoking, but because I LIED! If I had said, “Yep, it’s mine.” I would have gotten off, free as a teenager! What are you going to do if your 14 year old smokes, not much, especially if daddy smokes too (that’s a post for later, back on topic)!
So the lesson, DO NOT LIE! DO NOT DECEIT! DO NOT KEEP SECRETS!
Of course, lying, being deceitful, or the secret your keeping isn't anything like the story I shared. However, it's not much different either.
Why is it people (sometimes the same people who taught me this lesson) lie, deceit, and try to keep secrets?
I believe one of the main reasons people lie, deceit, or keep secrets is to spare someone's feelings. I lied to my mom about the cigarette because I didn't want her to be ashamed and thus hurt her. When Aaron hid his addiction from me, it was to spare my feelings. When someone tells me my pants don't make my butt look big, it's to spare my feelings (sorry, nothing can hide it, my butt's big). When I colored my hair and it turned blue-grey, people said it didn't look that bad. Why? To spare my feelings.
The Tuth.
It all hurts! The Bible says in Numbers 32:23, “…and you may be sure that your sins will find you out.” You see, the Bible also says, “DO NOT LIE!” It’s one of the 10 commandments (in case you missed that). Why not just say my pants make my butt look big. Why not come clean and say, "I slipped up." Why not admit you don’t treat all of your family the same (we all have a favorite, it’s OK). Why not tell someone you liked their hair better orange. In the end, their feelings will be hurt anyway. In the end, people are smart and they will know you’re lying, deceitful, and secretive (which hurts much worse than hearing, knowing, and seeing the truth the first time!).
Lesson learned?
Let’s go back a few years to Jr. High. Partying every weekend, smoking, drinking, kissing…all the things I would be mortified by if my 14 year old were the participant. One day,
So the lesson, DO NOT LIE! DO NOT DECEIT! DO NOT KEEP SECRETS!
Of course, lying, being deceitful, or the secret your keeping isn't anything like the story I shared. However, it's not much different either.
Why is it people (sometimes the same people who taught me this lesson) lie, deceit, and try to keep secrets?
I believe one of the main reasons people lie, deceit, or keep secrets is to spare someone's feelings. I lied to my mom about the cigarette because I didn't want her to be ashamed and thus hurt her. When Aaron hid his addiction from me, it was to spare my feelings. When someone tells me my pants don't make my butt look big, it's to spare my feelings (sorry, nothing can hide it, my butt's big). When I colored my hair and it turned blue-grey, people said it didn't look that bad. Why? To spare my feelings.
The Tuth.
It all hurts! The Bible says in Numbers 32:23, “…and you may be sure that your sins will find you out.” You see, the Bible also says, “DO NOT LIE!” It’s one of the 10 commandments (in case you missed that). Why not just say my pants make my butt look big. Why not come clean and say, "I slipped up." Why not admit you don’t treat all of your family the same (we all have a favorite, it’s OK). Why not tell someone you liked their hair better orange. In the end, their feelings will be hurt anyway. In the end, people are smart and they will know you’re lying, deceitful, and secretive (which hurts much worse than hearing, knowing, and seeing the truth the first time!).
Lesson learned?
Comments
I hope you like my hair better orange! :)
It is hard.